the story of a marriage

Die eerste zin greep me naar de keel, zoals me dat ook wel eens overkomt met het slotcommentaar bij een aflevering van Desperate Housewives. De eerste bladzijde van dit boek van Andrew Sean Greer had me helemaal in de ban. 

We think we know the ones we love.

Our husbands, our wives. We know them – we are them, sometimes; when separated at a party we find ourselves voicing their opinions, their taste in food or books, telling an anecdote that never happened to us but happened to them. We watch their tics of conversation, of driving and dressing, how they touch a sugar cube to their coffee and stare as it turns white to brown, then drop it, satisfied, into the cup. I watched my husband do that every morning; I was a vigilant wife.

We think we know them. We think we love them. But what we love turns out to be a poor translation, a translation we ourselves have made, from a language we barely know. We try to get past it to the original, but we never can. We have seen it all. But what have we really understood ?

One morning we awaken. Beside us, that familiar sleeping body in the bed  : a new kind of stranger. For me, it came in 1953. That was when I stood in my house and saw a creature merely bewitched with my husband’s face.

Perhaps you cannot see a marriage. Like those giantly heavenly bodies invisible to the human eye, it can only be charted by its gravity, its pull on everything around it. That is how I think of it. That I must look at everything around it, all the hidden stories, the unseen parts, so that somewhere in the middle – turning like a dark star – it will reveal itself at last.

3 reacties op “the story of a marriage”

  1. En soms is alles gebouwd op drijfzand…

  2. so american, darling… we are all alone in a disney-world!

  3. […] dan zal “The story of a marriage” van Andrew Sean Greer zeker op dat lijstje prijken. Omwille van die eerste zin, waardoor ik helemaal van mijn melk was. Mooie zinnen, aangrijpende verhalen : dat is de reden waarom ik boeken lees. En daar is Andrew […]

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